5 Ways to Positively Get Rid of the Negative
9 May 2017
Leeds, UK
#1 Stop focusing on enemies
I plan on writing a whole blog post on this in due time, but one way I got rid of negativity was to stop thinking or dwelling on people I don't like. I'll admit it, I'm human, there are some people in the world who haven't been kind to me and so I don't like them. And I love a little gossip from time to time, but sitting and talking about someone in a bad light for hours doesn't really do anything for you and doesn't even matter to them.
#2 Enjoy each moment
A lot of the time, I feel like I overlook those special moments in time. Or I spend those moments worrying about something else. To brush off the destructive vibes, I spent more of my time enjoying and simply loving the things that make me happy. Doesn't have to be anything big, just something like a beautiful sunset or the scenic drive to work. Sometimes I get stressed because I’m stressed. Spending less time fretting, means I can take in what's around me.
I could easily say I’ve been on a diet for six years. But this time, I’m taking it seriously. I re-joined a gym in March and since then have been going around five times a week, as well as working out at home when I can. Being totally honest, I’m not happy with my body, I wouldn’t be confidence to stand next to my friends in a bikini, and so what’s the point in moping around about it? I’m changing it! Working out has helped me in so many ways, from my strength to my attitude. I love it!
#4 Make a conscious effort
It’s no secret that I have a slightly pessimistic outlook. But I need to shake it. I can be sarcastic and petty, but I don’t want to be that way permanently. I have a notebook (among many) that I save just to write down positive things. I also try to make a conscious effort to think about optimistic memories, or something that makes me happy. It’s like squashing all the toxic stuff and replacing it with puppies and rainbows. Totally works.
#5 Smile and laugh
I’m currently smiling as I write this blog post. I’m also listening to a Jenna + Julien podcast that’s guaranteed to make me laugh. If I’m ever feeling down, I try not to sit in that state of mind for too long, because negative feelings with anchor in my brain and I’ll become unmotivated and lethargic. To filter out the bad vibes, I find something or someone who will turn that frown upside down. Whether it’s my dorky little sister or bloopers from Friends, a little levity goes a long way.
Guess Who's Back... And 21!
5 May 2017
Eldwick, UK
Happy May! Anika May is officially back in business. If you follow my blog on Bloglovin', you may have noticed a distinct gap in between my posts. In fact, my last post was December 2016! At the end of last year, I fell out of love with blogging. I started to change the way I posted on my blog, worrying about how my outfits look and stressing out if I didn't look fashionable enough. I started to compete with other bloggers, who had no idea I was competing with them. Comparison got the best of me and it started to get me down. Before long, every aspect of blogging before something negative or a chore.
Well today I turn 21 and I’ve been reflecting on the past year of my life. There’s been massive ups and enormous downs, but overall, there’s a hole in my life that used to be occupied by my blog. Since taking a break from the big digital world, I’ve been able to figure out exactly the type of person I want to be, the type of career I want, the type of blog I’d like to own. Now that I’m a whole year older, I want to fall back in love with blogging. I remembered the reason I started blogging, because I thought it was cool to have my own little corner of the internet, and write about everything and anything. I absolutely adore photography and travelling, so why not incorporate that in the way I publish content!
It's a little late for the whole "new year, new me" vibe, so how about new age, new me. I want to give this dream career of mine another shot, and I’m more motivated than ever.
I have missed blogging more than anything in the world, and I can't wait to share more and more online. I want to alter my mind-set to being more positive, and then spread that online. I’m learning as I grow, and documenting each step of the way will be a lot of fun. I know turning 21 isn't really a big deal, but I’m back to blogging, and I couldn't be more ready.
Hurray!
Burgundy Beanie Magic
26 December 2016
West Yorkshire, UK
As the rest of the look is pretty dark, I wanted a little bit more colour to be featured, which is where the magic beanie comes in. It’s a basic cotton hat, that is probably from the men’s department but I bought it from ASOS anyway. I really like how it brightens up this look, even though it’s not an illuminous colour. I occasionally call it the magic beanie because it’s so easy to put with any look! Casual jeans and a tee, a skater dress, or even a jumper with leggings – the beanie always works.
Faux Leather Lovin'
23 December 2016
West Yorkshire, UK
I remember being a child, and loving tops that looked like two
pieces but were one. If that says a lot about me, ah well. I just thought there
was something super cool about having a deceiving piece of clothing and I haven’t
grown out of it… ah well.
Today, I don’t wear tops that say “purrrrfect”, but I love a
good knitted jumper. I picked up this awesome top from Next a few years back
and always thought it was too formal to wear with casual outfits. However,
since trying to organise my wardrobe, I found this little gem and fell back in
love with it. The top is a cotton/wool knit on the top, with a polyester bottom
that’s super soft and silky. I love the contrast between the two fabrics. Monochrome
is one of my favourite styles, so this top also looks really classy with a pair
of jet black jeans.
Another little gem I adore is my faux leather jacket, a
must-have for the colder seasons. I never like to splash out on leather
jackets, as I usually find the affordable ones are just as good as some of the
high-fashion brands, if not better. The fur neckline is also so cosy! Anything
to keep me warm as I’m always a little chilly J
She My Nap Queen
20 December 2016
West Yorkshire, UK
I'm like hey, wassup,
hello…. There’s something about cosy sweatshirts that just makes me unbelievably
happy. Comfort is key when it comes to my fashion sense, I don’t think looking
good is worth it if you’re in pain. Luckily, with my latest buy, I can look
great and feel better.
Sweatshirts give me a really weird memory of primary school,
because I’d always wear one over a polo shirt and it was my pride and joy. I
had them in secondary school too, but I didn’t enjoy those years as much as my
childhood ones. Coconut Lane is one of my
favourite stores for sassy sayings and bad-ass-ness. So when I found out they
were selling clothing, of course I got the first thing I fell in love with. It
was actually really hard for me to choose, because I secretly wanted all of
them. In the end, I chose the Nap Queen sweatshirt, because Trap Queen was
basically my anthem when it was released
and we all know I could sleep for the country. The amount of times I’ve said “I’m
super lazy” on my blog is just embarrassing, but I finally found a shirt to
suit me.
Now that winter’s in full swing, I basically sleep in a full
outfit, so this sweatshirt has become key for me. It’s so cosy and warm, the
lining is almost like being wrapped in a blanket! The jumper is mainly cotton,
which is where most of the warmth comes from. It’s a natural fibre that is a must for winter. I definitely won’t be
wearing this jumper just to head to bed, I’ll be wearing this around the house,
with my favourite skinny jeans and probably on a night out! I love the cool
phrases featured on most of Coconut Lane’s products (check out my post on their
wall art here) and find it hard to refrain from buying basically everything on
their site. There are quite a few blogger-themed prints, notebooks, sweatshirts
and more. Plus, big bonus: I have a discount code to share! Yaaaaaaaaaaaasssss.
Make sure to use ‘ANIKAMAY20’ at the
check out to receive 20% off your order – and let me know what you get!
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