3 Reasons Why Rejection Is a Good Thing
2 July 2017
It’s a chance to grow
Once rejection hits, you have the opportunity to let it destroy you, or make you stronger. Everyone’s heard the whole “what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger” motto, and it’s true. Self-doubt can be converted into self-reflection and provides the motivation to change those little things that would make you a better person, to your own standards of course. Sometimes, all that’s needed is that kick up the bum or slap in the face to alter an outlook on life or create room to grow.
Ever look back at rejection and think: “Thank goodness that happened”? I do. There’s been jobs I was desperate to have, thinking it was going to be the greatest step in my life. Then when I didn’t get the position I wanted, I thought “…oh well”. Now looking back, I truly feel grateful the opportunity wasn’t handed to me because I got the chance to start over, and find something better. It’s good to remember there’s always something better around the corner.
Life gets a little boring if you only ever play it safe. Although it’s good sometimes to refuse to gamble, at the same time, it’s important to take a risk and put yourself out there. That’s how we learn life lessons and figure out the type of person we want to be. No matter what form the rejection comes in, you still took a risk, even if it didn’t pay off. It’s something to learn from and something to remember.
It’s known that you appreciate something more, after losing something first. Well, losing out on something, or being rejected in some way makes acceptance taste that much sweeter. It’s like the giant payoff after a long wait, or countless failed attempts. I always think of it as playing one of those basketball arcade games. I’m terrible at them, and hardly get any in, but the minute one ball falls through the basket, I feel awesome and I’m on a roll. The same applies to rejection! You may have faced your fair share of no’s in the past, but that one yes is going to mean so much more.
5 Achievable Summer Goals
28 June 2017
Eldwick, UK
Summer is well underway at the moment, and I’m loving every minute of it. Despite the sudden heat in the UK, which everyone seems to be dealing (struggling) with in their own way, I’m welcoming the rise in temperature. Summer for me, is the time to get stuff done. The days are longer, much lighter and easier to handle. As much as I love the cosiness of winter, waking up when it’s dark and coming home when it’s dark makes me want to curl up with a film, rather than run the world.
01. Put on a new personality.
Personally, I’m a little negative. I always say it’s me being realistic but actually I’m just being a bit of a downer. After taking inspiration from new friends, bloggers and public figures that I admire, I’ve decided to switch up the way I see the world a little bit. I’ve mentioned in previous blog posts that my aim is to be more positive, and summer is the perfect time to do so! It’s bright outside, and I’m like 80% sure that affects mood. I know all I want to do is sing, dance and have a good time when the sun appears, which means much more optimism.
Not that there’s anything wrong with my current personality, I’ve always been taught there’s room for improvement. Grab a mirror and take a look, what do I want to change inside. Maybe the sarcastic comments? The snappy attitude? The negative outlook? They’re just a couple of things I want to get rid of. I think in the long run, a little self-reflection is incredibly beneficial. I’m 21 and still growing, so summer’s the time to get that kick up the bum.
02. Take thousands of photos.
I feel like this goal is a very “just girly things” kind of goal, but it still counts. As a freelance photographer, I’m always taking photos. Like, constantly. But most the photos I take are for work or as a hobby. I have a DSLR, and I want to pick it up, get out of town and take a bunch of photos with my friends. Not some weak Snapchat videos with frilly filters and fuzzy audio. Some real photographs that I can look back on in thirty years and tear up at (awwwww). They say you should live in the moment, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, but I also think it’s important to capture the moment the best way you can.
Some are happy with the mental image that lasts forever. I have the memory of a goldfish and can’t even remember what I had for breakfast this morning let alone what I did with my friends last summer. Photos make me happy, so I wanna take waaaaay more.
03. Be an adult.
I guess this is an odd one, but a truthful one. I’m 21-years-old, which is classed as an adult pretty much everywhere in the world. But sometimes, I live like a 12-year-old, depending on my mum and not wanting to face a very fast-paced life. That’s got to stop, or at least chill out a bit. Being older definitely scares me, and I know I’m not alone in that boat. There’s something about being independent that’s empowering but terrifying. I’m always crazy shocked when there’s a 18-year-old living on her own, with a job, a car, and a dog named Bentley.
Comparison can certainly be a mood-killer, but not if I use it for inspiration. Sometimes I need to grow up a bit, and aiming to be a little more independent and being open to growing is the way to do that this summer.
04. Party hard. Work harder.
As I’ve said 300 times, I’m 21, which also means I can drink all over the world (whoop)! I’m a bit of a party animal when I want to be, so every opportunity to have a good time is going to be taken this summer. It’s an easy goal to have and one that’s definitely achievable. Whether it’s a one-woman rave or this season’s coolest after party – I’m there.
At the same time, I also want to dominate my secular game. I currently work for a Yorkshire-based charity that’s kind of like my baby. As its non-government funded, I work my bum off with the staff to keep us afloat and it’s very rewarding when we receive a donation for our hard work or an extra like on Facebook. That feeling is only felt after working hard, so even though the sun’s out, I might not always be. I totally want to have fun, that’s part of being young, but at the same time it’s important to build a foundation for life and something to be proud of.
05. Read a ton of books.
Maybe not literally, but close. I bought a whole shelf’s worth of books in the spring, with the intention of finishing them all by then end of August. So far, I’m three books in and have quite a few to go but I couldn’t be happier. One of the main reasons I read is for entertainment, but I also love to expand my vocabulary and have something else to think about rather than the mess the world is falling into. One thing that’s different about my choice in books this year, is that I’m reading them for me. A lot of the time, we’re influenced by other people into what we think we should be doing.
Well I’m done with that, I’ll read whatever I want to read and do whatever I want to do. Maybe I don’t want to read 13th century literature while I lounge in the sunshine – doesn’t mean I’m any less of a person or book-lover and the same applies to everyone else.
One thing I noted while writing this post, is that it’s my summer. And your summer is your summer. Set your own goals, achieve your own dreams, and imagine whatever makes you happy, because without that, it’s very hard to have a hope. Happy summer!
Ten Thoughts for Thursday
22 June 2017
Leeds, UK
#1 You are not alone
It’s always good to remember there are other people in this
boat with you. I often put myself in my own little bubble, and it’s not the
best way to deal with things. You’re never alone!
#2 There’s room for improvement
I always like to think there’s a chance for something to get
better. There’s growing space in most situations, so it’s time to notice that
space and use it.
#3 It’s not the end of the world
Although it may certainly feel like it. It’s difficult to
find comfort in the mess of today’s world, but it certainly isn’t the end.
#4 Smile back
There’s something really special about smiling back when you
make eye contact with someone. In Yorkshire it’s a normal thing, but I think
the whole world should do it.
#5 Just do it
Quoting one of the biggest brands, but one of the best
sayings. That thing you’ve been avoiding all week – get it over with.
#6 Do what brings you joy
I hate anything that feels like a chore as much as the next
person, which is why it’s vital to save some time for the joyful things in
life.
#7 Watch some cartoons
I’m a big girl but SpongeBob will always make me smile. It’s
an odd fact, but I know I’m not the only. Throw on an animated series and have
a laugh.
#8 Forget the past
What’s done is done. Just take the lesson, accept the
principle and move on. You only ever move the direction you’re facing, so turn
around.
#9 Value everything
Sometimes it takes a shock in life for us to focus on what’s
really special in life. Why not just value those things, or people, while they’re
there?
And finally, #10 Pizza is awesome
Unless you seriously hate pizza, pizza is the best. I had a Domino's this week, and it brought me so much joy I just had to add it to today's post.
Exploring in Floral
15 June 2017
Eldwick, UK
Going for walks has got to be one of my favourite things to do. It’s a very basic activity, you don’t need much, but the benefits are always positive. Whenever I’m in a bad mood, not feeling well, or want to get some easy exercise in, I just go for a walk. Luckily for me, I live in quite the scenic area of Yorkshire, so a beautiful stroll is only two steps away.
Converse have become a big go-to shoe to me recently, and I feel like up until now, I was really taking them for granted. I’ve had this classic pair since school, and they’re still in top condition (minus the mud). I love how they add a casual twist to this look paired with a denim jacket. Converse all the way! Shop the pieces from this look below!
5 Netflix Shows You Need to Watch This Month
12 June 2017
Bingley, UK
I’m a self-confessed Netflix lover. Ever since signing
up, I have just adored the site and use it more than I use usual TV. There are
a lot of TV shows and series that I have grown to love, and watched way more
than three times. Therefore, my joy must be shared!
01. Girlboss
The phrase #GIRLBOSS is pretty famous thanks to Nasty Gal
CEO Sophia Amoruso, and this show is a total inspiration. Although it hasn’t
received the best reviews from critics and some feminists, I still love how
determined and unique Britt Robertson’s character is. The story is interesting,
very much like the book, even though the narrative is a little slow. If you’re
looking for the motivation to start your own business or jump into the fashion
industry, check out this show.
02. 13 Reasons Why
I completely understand why this show was controversial.
Some scenes were truly terrifying to watch. Why you should watch it? Well not
only because everyone is talking about it, but because this show will alter the
way you look at the world. While watching it, I started to think about my own
personal demons and actually become motivated to defeat them. I was moved by
Hannah’s story, as well as Clay’s emotional turmoil as each episode unfolded.
There’ll be characters you love, totally despise and want to hug. It’s a series
full of relatable types and eye-opening messages. But please watch with
caution!
03. Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt
Whenever I’m on my lunch break, I look for something
light and humours to watch, as it’ll lower my stress levels and put me in a
better mood before I return to an afternoon of reports and cold cups of tea. Unbreakable
Kimmy Schmidt is that perfect show. Not only is it truly hilarious, but I fell
in love with the characters, especially Titus. You’ll often see gifs of him
floating around the internet, so tune in and enjoy.
04. Riverdale
I can’t lie, I really struggled with this show at first.
With the first few episodes, I couldn’t get addicted, and didn’t relate to the
characters this much. By the third or fourth, and a little encouragement from
my friends, I really started to enjoy the show as more details of the
mysterious murder were revealed. One thing I noticed with the characters in
this show, is that you really get to know them and their lives, and are able to
make your own decision as to whether or not you like them. And like any good
show, there are some great couples to obsess over!
05. Gossip Girl… obviously
I mean, if you haven’t watched this show. Kmt. I don’t
even know where to begin. I’ve been a Gossip Girl fan since it first showed on
ITV2 a couple of years ago. I became obsessed then and I’m still obsessed now.
It’s definitely the show that helped me to fall in love with New York City,
fashion and glamour. The drama is enough to have you hooked, and each season
has a hint of mystery; on top of the biggest mystery of all – who Gossip Girl
is!
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